Life Management

Who keeps an eye on you. If you keep getting hurt in love, work or self-esteem, you may be under the influence of a painful attachment syndrome.

That child will carry that image and feeling of having a watchful parent into their adult life. If you were not fortunate enough to have had that, you may believe you did not deserve it. Don't all children deserve love and protection. How about adults?

Even grown-ups have fantasies. If you consistently do not have satisfaction in love, work or appropriate sense of self, you may be under the sway of a neurotic fantasy.

To get an accurate picture of someone's pain, psychotherapists need a patient to sit still. Psychotherapy should operate like an MRI scan, providing detailed information to help relieve the pain.

The aim of Psychotherapy is to put onto the stage of treatment the distortions in how you see yourself and relationships.

Human beings are emotionally dependent by nature. We require emotional support to feel securely connected. The stability of that anchor impacts the moves we make in our lives in work, love and play.

Your armor may seen solid and protective, but if its outdated, it will slow you down. We all need to find ways to protect ourselves from pain and anxiety, but some of those ways also prevent us from connecting to others and ourselves.

If you are going round and round in circles, but never getting anywhere. Unconscious defenses are in operation. You can learn to decode this and find a healthier and more powerful version of yourself.

People show you their hand. The tell you that their intent in a comment, a tone or a look. If you keep getting hurt, you are unconsciously misreading the signals.

A mothers presence is always important, regardless of how big and powerful we get.

Who has your back?

How do you protect yourself from getting hurt?

It's so hard to imagine, but it wasn't that long ago that New York was forrest, peopled by the Lenape Indian tribe. Now, as this photo attests to, it's a forrest of brick. Change at that rate is almost impossible to see. To evolve and change ourselves, even if we don't believe it's possible, requires keystone habit creation.

You can see from watching the Super Bowl what a difference good strategy and coaching make. There are winners and losers. How can you tell the difference about who will help get you to the finish line. Tired of hearing " how does that make you feel" without any real movement? Real therapy helps you learn how to connect and put your innate forces to use in your life. The other are just conversations...

We all construct our ideas of reality in a blur. That blur is called childhood. As an amateur photographer, I often look in confusion at how I came up with a particular composition. Did I get the correct shutter speed, aperture, think of all the opportunities to confuse the pictures we create of ourselves and attachments with our primitive lenses.

Can't see the forest through the trees, or the beach through the fence, you miss the beauty of life being mired in pain and misery.