Robyn Englert Counseling

If you face conflict in a significant relationship, check out these helpful questions

Learning to cope with external pressures and tensions outside your relationship is crucial to its long-term health. A simple, effective way for couples to do t...his is to reunite at the end of the day and talk about how it went using the Stress-Reducing Conversation. Unfortunately, sometimes these conversations do the opposite of their intended purpose and instead can escalate the stress and tension between them because they end up not feeling heard. Kyle Benson, Love Lab researcher at The Gottman Institute, suggests exploring these "4 Agreements" to bring unspoken expectations into view and get each other on the same page. Discover seven steps to an effective Stress-Reducing Conversation: https://bit.ly/2Pglfkr

Great question for all of us!

When we identify what’s in our control and focus our efforts there, we can begin to make progress. Let’s focus our efforts on what we can control.

Try starting your next conflict discussion with a soft start-up. When you can complain without blame and truly express your needs and concerns in a positive wa...y, it opens a window to understanding each other more deeply and intimately. Discover proven skills for softening your start-ups when bringing up an issue of disagreement and watch Dr. Julie Gottman explain what to do if your partner responds negatively: https://bit.ly/3fagUHy

Try starting your next conflict discussion with a soft start-up. When you can complain without blame and truly express your needs and concerns in a positive wa...y, it opens a window to understanding each other more deeply and intimately. Discover proven skills for softening your start-ups when bringing up an issue of disagreement and watch Dr. Julie Gottman explain what to do if your partner responds negatively: https://bit.ly/3fagUHy

It's this quote from #MaybeYouShouldTalkToSomeone that so many readers tell me relates to their lives, in ways big and small. What quote from the book really hit home for you?

Great ways to engage your kids and build up conversation.

Healthy connection in relationship begins with understanding. When we feel understood, even if there is not agreement or the same experience, we are more able to work through issues. Here are 4 steps to help with the skill of empathy.

Last Friday I had the privilege of being interviewed for a podcast on how anxiety effects relationships. Here is a graphic with a few helpful tips on what to and what not to say to support someone with anxiety. If you have any other helpful ways to support a loved one with anxiety please share!

The power of connection. Who are you connecting with at this time?

May is Mental Health Awareness Month. The Mental Health Society published a series of useful tools - Tools to Thrive. This tool on Owning Your Feelings is a great place to start to increase awareness of your own mental health. I often work with people on naming, exploring, and processing their feelings. https://www.mhanational.org//Handout%20-%20Owning%20Your%2

Recently I made a Facebook live video on 5 tips to help someone with anxiety for a group of pastors and ministry leaders. Here is the video if you’re interested in the 5 tips.

Are you practicing a daily de-stressing check-in with your partner? Read how compassion can help you find relief during stressful conditions: https://bit.ly/35h2Mbh

Here is a great resource to help increase mindfulness, meditation, and moments of calm. https://www.headspace.com/ny

Developing resilience includes strengthening confidence, social support, adaptability, and purposefulness. Select one area today to take a step toward cultivating resilience in the midst of the uncertainty. We grow one step at a time.

Grief is a normal response to loss. Love this article on how to grieve the losses we are experiencing. "As a therapist, I always say that there’s no hierarchy of pain pain is pain. Suffering shouldn’t be ranked, because pain is not a contest." Lori Gotttlieb https://www.nytimes.com//fami/coronavirus-grief-loss.html