Law Office of Thomas W Seeley, PC

Justice in divorce begins with recognizing that there are (at least) three truths in every situation : your truth; their truth; and what really happened. In a marriage, two-thirds of all marital conflicts are never resolved, anyway. Rather than focusing on being ‘right’ about what happened in the past, focus instead on how you can reach common ground on how to restructure your lives so that you can begin to live separate and apart. #divorcecoach #loveisaverb #allyouneedis...love #allyouneedislove #loveisallthereis #divorced #divorcerecovery #lifeafterdivorce #divorcecommunity #lovequotes #newbeginings #divorcesupport #movingforward #healing #datingadvice #loveafterdivorce #divorcedparents #divorcedlife #loveyourself #loveyourselffirst #mindfuldivorce #mindfulness #mindfullife #divorcematters #flx #fingerlakes #westchester #westchestercounty See more

One second can make the difference between acting from a place or rushed emotions to one from reasoned emotions. This is why we teach clients the importance of self care so that they can move through their divorce and separation more mindfully. We consider it so important, we even teach mindfulness to divorcing couples. If you or someone you know is considering ending your/their marriage, or are in the throes of divorce already, reach out today to learn more. http://flholisticdivorce.com/blog/

Divorce is an enormous change for all involved and for most will be the most emotionally challenging event outside of the death of a loved one. But it doesn’t have to tear your family and your psyche apart. We love to teach couples how to divorce differently and move forward with their lives unattached and with as little emotional baggage for all involved possible. ... #divorcecoach #loveisaverb #allyouneedislove #allyouneedislove #loveisallthereis #divorced #divorcerecovery #lifeafterdivorce #divorcecommunity #lovequotes #newbeginings #divorcesupport #movingforward #healing #datingadvice #loveafterdivorce #divorcedparents #divorcedlife #loveyourself #loveyourselffirst #mindfuldivorce #mindfulness #mindfullife #divorcematters #flx #fingerlakes #westchester #westchestercounty

Unlike most divorce and family lawyers, we exclusively help you resolve the end of your marriage OUTSIDE of the court room. And unlike most lawyers who mediate, we focus not just on helping you resolve the legal issues, but also on providing you with skills to manage the difficult emotions inherent with divorce, to help your children manage the transition, and to recover financially. And we typically accomplish this in less time and for less money than traditional methods of ...getting divorced. Sound too good to be true? It’s not, call or message us to learn more. #divorcecoach #loveisaverb #allyouneedislove #allyouneedislove #loveisallthereis #divorced #divorcerecovery #lifeafterdivorce #divorcecommunity #lovequotes #newbeginings #divorcesupport #movingforward #healing #datingadvice #loveafterdivorce #divorcedparents #divorcedlife #loveyourself #loveyourselffirst #mindfuldivorce #mindfulness #mindfullife #divorcematters #flx #fingerlakes #westchester #westchestercounty

Actions speak louder than words, as the saying goes. If you’re spouse or partner isn’t showing you that you are loved, it may be time for a relationship refresh, or to consider whether it’s time to end your marriage or relationship. If this sounds like you, we can help you evaluate and decide what is right for you. #divorcecoach #loveisaverb #allyouneedislove #allyouneedislove #loveisallthereis #divorced #divorcerecovery #lifeafterdivorce #divorcecommunity #lovequotes #...newbeginings #divorcesupport #movingforward #healing #datingadvice #loveafterdivorce #divorcedparents #divorcedlife #loveyourself #loveyourselffirst #mindfuldivorce #mindfulness #mindfullife #divorcematters #flx #fingerlakes #westchester #westchestercounty See more

Even if your life isn’t exactly as you want it to be, and none of us could possibly have imagined life as we know it in 2020, today is a day to remember all the things we are grateful for. It is one of life’s great myths that when we have more things we will be happy, but the reality is that happiness comes from appreciating what we do have. A simple exercise is to write down at least three things you are grateful for each day and two things that went well@for your each day.... #divorcecoach #loveisaverb #allyouneedislove #allyouneedislove #loveisallthereis #divorced #divorcerecovery #lifeafterdivorce #divorcecommunity #lovequotes #newbeginings #divorcesupport #movingforward #healing #datingadvice #loveafterdivorce #divorcedparents #divorcedlife #loveyourself #loveyourselffirst #mindfuldivorce #mindfulness #mindfullife #gratitude #gratefulness

If your marriage or relationship constantly feels like a struggle and you just can’t get on the same page, it’s time to take a hard look at whether you and your partner will ever be able to meet each other’s core emotional needs. We can help you decide if your relationship can be improved, or if it’s time to pull the plug and consider separation or divorce. ... #divorcecoach #loveisaverb #allyouneedislove #allyouneedislove #loveisallthereis #divorced #divorcerecovery #lifeafterdivorce #divorcecommunity #lovequotes #newbeginings #divorcesupport #movingforward #healing #datingadvice #loveafterdivorce #divorcedparents #divorcedlife #loveyourself #loveyourselffirst #mindfuldivorce #mindfulness #mindfullife

NEW BLOG POST: Is your marriage headed for divorce? John Gottman has identified four tell-tale signs that you've reached the point of no return. Check it out at the link below: http://flholisticdivorce.com/blog/

Change your mind, not theirs. Changing the perception and behavior of your soon-to-be ex is an impossible goal. ... Remember that there are three truths in every marriage, yours, theirs, and what actually happened. Learn to accept that you each have separate viewpoints that will likely never be changed. Focus instead on finding a common understanding as to the best possible arrangements for yours and your children’s future. #divorcecoach #loveisaverb #allyouneedislove #allyouneedislove #loveisallthereis #divorced #divorcerecovery #lifeafterdivorce #divorcecommunity #lovequotes #newbeginings #divorcesupport #movingforward #healing #datingadvice #loveafterdivorce #divorcedparents #divorcedlife #loveyourself #loveyourselffirst #mindfuldivorce #mindfulness #mindfullife

It has been said that divorce can feel like the death of a small civilization. But it can also be an amazing time of personal growth and then, one day, you realize that divorce wasn’t an end, but a beautiful beginning.. #divorcecoach #loveisaverb #allyouneedislove #allyouneedislove #loveisallthereis #divorced #divorcerecovery #lifeafterdivorce #divorcecommunity #lovequotes #newbeginings #divorcesupport #movingforward #healing #datingadvice #loveafterdivorce #divorcedparents #divorcedlife #loveyourself #loveyourselffirst #mindfuldivorce #mindfulness #mindfullife

By the time you get to these stages, it is likely too late to salvage what is left of your relationship. In a healthy, happy marriage, positive interactions outweigh negative ones by a ratio of 5:1. Partners don’t criticize or insult one another, refrain from defensiveness and contempt, and avoid extended periods without communication following conflict. Healthy relationships are based on a deep friendshipknowing, understanding, and admiring one another’s interests, likes an...d dislikes, quirks, and hopes and dreams. Partners don’t have to have everything in common, but you do have to have a common, shared sense of meaning and aspirations for the future. It’s not that healthy relationships are without conflict. Quite the contrary, conflict in relationships is inevitable and 65% of marital conflicts will never be resolved. Happy couples simply are able to work though the conflict and repair their relationship before negativity permeates all interaction. If your marriage is at any of these stages, reach out today to find out how we can help. If you aren’t, we love helping couples learn more about how to make your love last so you never have to find out what these stages feel like. #divorcecoach #loveisaverb #allyouneedislove #allyouneedislove #loveisallthereis #divorced #divorcerecovery #lifeafterdivorce #divorcecommunity #lovequotes #newbeginings #divorcesupport #movingforward #healing #datingadvice #loveafterdivorce #divorcedparents #divorcedlife #loveyourself #loveyourselffirst #mindfuldivorce #mindfulness #mindfullife

Breakups can be scary, but it’s much scarier to live your life alone together with someone who isn’t willing or capable of meeting your needs and filling your love tank. #divorcecoach #loveisaverb #allyouneedislove #allyouneedislove #loveisallthereis #divorced #divorcerecovery #lifeafterdivorce #divorcecommunity #lovequotes #newbeginings #divorcesupport #movingforward #healing #datingadvice #loveafterdivorce #divorcedparents #divorcedlife #loveyourself #loveyourselffirst #mindfuldivorce #mindfulness #mindfullife

Just because your spouse may think your marriage is fine and try to make you feel the same way, does not mean you have to stay when it doesn’t feel right. Don’t let your spouse or anyone else tell you your feelings are not valid. #divorcecoach #loveisaverb #allyouneedislove #allyouneedislove #loveisallthereis #divorced #divorcerecovery #lifeafterdivorce #divorcecommunity #lovequotes #newbeginings #divorcesupport #movingforward #healing #datingadvice #loveafterdivorce #divorcedparents #divorcedlife #loveyourself #loveyourselffirst #mindfuldivorce #mindfulness #mindfullife

In all seriousness, there is no shame in coming to the realization that all this time together with your spouse confirms that your marriage has run its course. Ending a marriage can feel sad and overwhelming, but your experience can still be PEACEFUL & POSITIVE. Contact us to find out how. ... #divorcecoach #loveisaverb #allyouneedislove #allyouneedislove #loveisallthereis #divorced #divorcerecovery #lifeafterdivorce #divorcecommunity #lovequotes #newbeginings #divorcesupport #movingforward #healing #datingadvice #loveafterdivorce #divorcedparents #divorcedlife #loveyourself #loveyourselffirst #mindfuldivorce #mindfulness #mindfullife

It might seem counterintuitive or pithy to say, but we can rewire our entire way of thinking with just a simple change in how we think and speak about ourselves. Try it every day for at least one week, preferably one month, and see how it feels, I promise you won’t be disappointed. And if you slip back into the old way of thinking, don’t beat yourself up, just start over. #divorcecoach #loveisaverb #allyouneedislove #allyouneedislove #loveisallthereis #divorced #divorcerecovery #lifeafterdivorce #divorcecommunity #lovequotes #newbeginings #divorcesupport #movingforward #healing #datingadvice #loveafterdivorce #divorcedparents #divorcedlife #loveyourself #loveyourselffirst #mindfuldivorce #mindfulness #mindfullife

A Morning Offering by (the amazing) John O’Donahue I bless the night that nourished my heart To set the ghosts of longing free Into the flow and figure of dream... That went to harvest from the dark Bread for the hunger no one sees. All that is eternal in me Welcomes the wonder of this day, The field of brightness it creates Offering time for each thing To arise and illuminate. I place on the altar of dawn: The quiet loyalty of breath, The tent of thought where I shelter, Waves of desire I am shore to And all beauty drawn to the eye. May my mind come alive today To the invisible geography That invites me to new frontiers, To break the dead shell of yesterdays, To risk being disturbed and changed. May I have the courage today To live the life that I would love, To postpone my dream no longer But do at last what I came here for And waste my heart on fear no more. #divorcecoach #loveisaverb #allyouneedislove #allyouneedislove #loveisallthereis #divorced #divorcerecovery #lifeafterdivorce #divorcecommunity #lovequotes #newbeginings #divorcesupport #movingforward #healing #datingadvice #loveafterdivorce #divorcedparents #divorcedlife #loveyourself #loveyourselffirst #mindfuldivorce #mindfulness #mindfullife

If someone wants to be with you, you won’t have to guess, you’ll just know. Love yourself so much that you couldn’t possibly let yourself settle for someone who doesn’t treat you like you are the greatest thing that ever happened to them. #divorcecoach #loveisaverb #allyouneedislove #allyouneedislove #loveisallthereis #divorced #divorcerecovery #lifeafterdivorce #divorcecommunity #lovequotes #newbeginings #divorcesupport #movingforward #healing #datingadvice #loveafterdivorce #divorcedparents #divorcedlife #loveyourself #loveyourselffirst

This is true even if you don’t enjoy burning sage. Make a clean break and don’t look back. h/t @heatherparis #divorcecoach #loveisaverb #allyouneedislove #allyouneedislove #loveisallthereis #divorced #divorcerecovery #lifeafterdivorce #divorcecommunity #lovequotes #newbeginings #divorcesupport #movingforward #healing #datingadvice #loveafterdivorce #divorcedparents #divorcedlife #loveyourself #loveyourselffirst

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When going through a divorce, it can be easy to get lost in the throes of despair and feel as though all hope is lost. But for most, of not all, love comes around again, often when least expecting it. And for many, love is better the second time around thanks to the wisdom gained from having loved and lost #divorcecoach #loveisaverb #allyouneedislove #allyouneedislove #loveisallthereis #divorced #divorcerecovery #lifeafterdivorce #divorcecommunity #lovequotes #newbeginings #divorcesupport #movingforward #healing #datingadvice #loveafterdivorce #divorcedparents #divorcedlife #loveyourself #loveyourselffirst