Margaret Lorenz, LCSW

Co-Parenting: establishing boundaries

Co-Parenting. Creating boundaries

Cord-cutting meditation. It can be edited for time. Visualize your own energy cord and cutting tool. Make it your own! @ New York, New York

No Contact! Why is that a good thing?

Letting your kids know that you are ready to date after a divorce or loss, can be an uncomfortable conversation. I know of many parents who struggle with how to start and confess that they would rather hide their dating than tell their kids. But, in the interest of open and honest communication, it is better to dive in and let your kids know soon rather than later you would expect the same of them. . During the talk, you will be interested in hearing your children’s conc...erns and fears regarding you meeting a new person, however, you are not asking their permission. It is important that you embrace your need to invite new people into your life. It is also beneficial for your children to see you evolve and grow after a divorce or loss they will want you to find a new partner and not be alone. . When sharing with your kids, just be as upfront as you can, you don’t need to get into detail you are just starting to date! This will be an ongoing conversation as things unfold! Also, don’t introduce anyone to your children until you know that the relationship is serious and could become a long term commitment. Your main aim is to be honest and willing to listen to any worries or concerns that may arise. See more

What is the difference between a first meeting and a first date? . When you are getting to know people through a dating site or dating app, you will frequently have a first meeting before a first date. . The first meeting should be a quick way to measure chemistry! You can’t really know if you click with a person until you meet face to face. And there is no use in committing to a dinner or an hours long event unless you know there is potential! ... . Best advice: keep first meetings brief! You can always extend or decide to meet up again in a few days. My grandma used to say: always leave them wanting more! See more

Are you a woman over 40 and single? Pop culture makes it seem as if you are in a rather dire situation. Every time you turn around, there is another article or YouTube video explaining how difficult it is for women over 40 to find love. But a quick look at the statistics prove that women over 40 are not doomed to a life devoted to solitude unless that is what they choose. . The number of single men to single women over 40 is pretty even, meaning, there are people out there t...o date. It could be advantageous to stay out of a scarcity mindset and embrace you singlehood as a time of possibility and adventure. . Examine your attitude towards dating, are there dating potholes that you are stumbling into? Do you doubt yourself or are you convinced that the cards are stacked against you? do you expect too little? M Is your attitude holding your back? See more

Touch deprivation is affecting many people during this time of social distancing. While it is important to keep ourselves safe, the fallout from quarantining can be difficult to handle. Many people report that the isolation can feel like being in solitary confinement. Living on your own for long periods of time without interacting with other, can lead to feelings of anxiety and depression. How can we feed our human need for touch during this pandemic? How can we balance our physical and mental health at this time of crisis?

Reposting because earlier video had no sound. Thank you @goodingwellnesspc for the heads up. . Dating profile pictures are the first thing a person sees when they view your profile, so they are important. You want your photos to look warm, open and inviting. No crossed arms or serious faces. Make sure the pictures are recent and clear, use filters minimally! Try to put up a number of photos that sort of illustrate your life you in your work setting, then having fun, then participating in a sport or hobby. Make sure to add a full body shot along with your head shots! Smile, post, and see what happens! Online dating is an adventure, for sure!

Dating profile pictures are the first thing a person sees when they view your profile, so they are important. You want your photos to look warm, open and inviting. No crossed arms or serious faces. Make sure the pictures are recent and clear, use filters minimally! Try to put up a number of photos that sort of illustrate your life you in your work setting, then having fun, then participating in a sport or hobby. Make sure to add a full body shot along with your head shots! Smile, post, and see what happens! Online dating is an adventure, for sure!

COVID dating, COVID hooking up. It’s so much more complicated than the way it was just a few months ago! But according to Dr. Anthony Fauci, hooking up can still happen! . During an interview on Snapchat’s Good Luck, America, Dr. Fauci was asked, If you’re swiping on a dating app .. and you match with someone that you think is hot, and you’re just kind of like, ‘Maybe it’s fine if this one stranger comes over.’ What do you say to that person? To his credit, Dr. Fauci r...esponded, You know, that’s tough. Which is completely true! . According to Fauci, hookups fall under the category of relative risk, but if you’re willing to take that risk, well, that’s your business. If you’re willing to take a risk and you know, everybody has their own tolerance for risks you could figure out if you want to meet somebody. said Fauci. . So what to do to try to mitigate your risk? How can you make an informed choice? First, try having a video date this is as close to a real date as you can get without actually meeting and it might help to get a better handle on the chemistry between you is it worth breaking your germ circle to meet this person? . Second, have a true, honest discussion about what your views are about the pandemic. Does your potential date view the risk the same way you do? Have they been resuming their activities normally? Is make wearing a problem? Do they interact often with elderly parents which might be a cause for concern? Or do they live with a ER doctor roommate that might be more at risk? Are they meeting up with their volleyball club for a weekly game? And lastly, what would they hope to do if you meet up? Do you have the same expectations? . Make sure your level of concern and safety match your date’s. You need to be on the same page to feel comfortable and enjoy an evening together. See more

At this point, we are all ready to reclaim our normal lives. Quarantining and social distancing has left people feeling isolated many share that they feel starved for hugs and physical touch. The day to day distance has a cumulative affect . If you are a single person, you might feel hit even harder social isolation can start to feel like solitary confinement if you are on your own. But with COVID cases on the rise, is it worth the risk to meet a new person for dinner? How do you feel connected while still maintaining distance? As time goes on, will more people be willing to take risks because the loneliness has become too much to bear? @ New York, New York

How to build a better dating profile, starting with your profile picture.

Online dating continues to be extremely popular with 17% of Marriages Starting Online. But how do put together a profile that attracts the viable prospects? How do you guard against catfishing? What are the best ways to connect with potential matches online? Over the next week, check out our stories and see!