ReSolutions Mediation & Collaborative Services LLC

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Will mediation be of benefit to us if we don’t have kids? (Yes - opportunity for closure and deeper understanding, and an amicable divorce.) In mediation, we work to make space to have conversations that you have not been able to have on your own, which can help you to have closure, and to move forward without needing to keep rehashing the past. You will have the chance to discuss anything that feels unresolved. Couples have wanted to work out details about divided custody ...for a pet, as well as dividing silverware, wedding gifts, and who keeps the couch. You can discuss feelings around dividing friends. Many details arise as you un-intertwine, and emotions are connected to monetary value. Our job is to help you to craft an agreement where you both walk away with some benefit; one which feels fair for both of you. Mediation can also help you to get closure by better understanding the reasons you’re separating. Adrian used to be a heroin addict but when I met with them, he had been sober for 20 years. Jill had struggled with an eating disorder since she was a teen. I guided them through a discussion about how addictive issues had blocked intimacy during their marriage. Adrian felt that he had grown and developed during the marriage, but that Jill hadn’t grown along with him. They were both crying he with sorrow and empathy and she with sorrow and apology. They left mediation with increased understanding about why their relationship deteriorated, and having shared mutual feelings of loss, which left neither feeling at fault. Mason and Rose talked about the issues that led them to divorce. Mason asked when Rose had first thought about ending their marriage. Rose confessed that at various times she had been unhappy, and she never told Mason how she was feeling. Mason was devastated to hear this, and asked Rose why? We delved into the blocks that had prevented Mason from seeing how Rose felt, and that had prevented Rose from communicating her truth. They left mediation with a better understanding of their marriage, each other and themselves. Mediation can help you to resolve open issues and to end your relationship as smoothly as is possible. We make the space for you to share your thoughts and grief with your (soon-to-be-ex) partner whether they feel the same way as you do or not. It’s a process that allows you to further understand yourself and your ex, to resolve legal issues for a divorce, and to get the closure you need to move on into this next chapter in your life. See more

Separation or Divorce? The answer to this is personal, and it depends where you are both at. Are you 100% sure that you are headed for divorce? Or is there a chance of separating for a few months, a year, even 3 and then reconciling? Do you feel that you would not be able to date if you are still married? Is one of you on the other’s health insurance? There are three differences between signing a full separation agreement and living apart, according to its terms, and... filing for a divorce. 1. Taxes: Filing taxes together as a married couple is usually cheaper than filing as married/separate. While you are still married you can file joint taxes. 2. Health Insurance: Another reason to stay legally married is for health insurance. A married couple, even if legally separated, can stay on each other’s plans, but once you are divorced you can’t. When considering whether or not to divorce it is important to look at the health coverage plans you and your partner have, and if there are any feasible alternatives if you separate. Children’s health insurance is not affected, and they can stay on either parent’s plan after a divorce. 3. Emotional: The ending of a marriage is usually stressful and emotional. Many couples crave closure, and once divorced, feel they are (or will be) better equipped to move on and begin to heal. Other couples do not find as much significance in this legal status. Some people feel that they cannot date while they are still legally married, while I’ve had couples who are living with someone else or even expecting another child when their divorce comes through. Your situation is unique, and you can consider these points as you consider your options. See more

What happens to divorcing couples in the middle of a pandemic? Where can parents go for help with custody disputes when the courts are closed? Families are in crisis, and they don't know where to turn. Collaborative Practice is an internationally-recognized method created to help divorcing couples, and parents manage divorce and child custody matters peacefully without the courts. On May 27th at 10:00a (PDT), the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals is hosting... a FREE information session about Collaborative Practice and its benefits. Learn new ways to get your clients the help they need and expand your local referral network. Local civic, social, business, religious, and community groups, as well as professional associations, are invited. As a service provider, you see firsthand how COVID-19 is devastating our community. Let’s work together to provide solutions. Seats are limited. Register now. https://www.collaborativepractice.com/civic/event/register See more

pros and cons of mediation, whether it is right for you and your ex.