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#myowntruelove https://youtu.be/vQD5d_qBhzQ

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The Facts of Life By Pádraig Ó Tuama That you were bornand you will die.That you will sometimes love enoughand sometimes not.That you will lieif only to yourself.That you will get tired.That you will learn most from the situationsyou did not choose.That there will be some things that move youmore than you can say.That you will livethat you must be loved.That you will avoid questions most urgently in need ofyour attention.That you began as the fusion of ...a sperm and an eggof two people who once were strangersand may well still be.That life isn’t fair.That life is sometimes goodand sometimes better than good.That life is often not so good.That life is realand if you can survive it, well,survive it wellwith loveand artand meaning givenwhere meaning’s scarce.That you will learn to live with regret.That you will learn to live with respect.That the structures that constrict youmay not be permanently constraining.That you will probably be okay.That you must accept changebefore you diebut you will die anyway.So you might as well liveand you might as well love.You might as well love.You might as well love. See more

The best arguments in the world won’t change a persons mind. The only thing that can do that is a good story. - The Overstory.

One kind word can warm three winter months.

#LoveStory https://youtu.be/p1S5pAF1YYA

Patience is the companion of wisdom. -Saint AugustinePatience is the companion of wisdom. -Saint Augustine

#DontWorry #goodthingstaketime #MaryOliver #Felicity

Some stones are so heavy only silence helps you carry them... Anne Michaels, Fugitive Pieces.

Sensible advice!

I don’t know if I’ve learned anything yet! I did learn how to have a happy home, but I consider myself fortunate in that regard because I could’ve rolled right... by it. Everybody has a superficial side and a deep side, but this culture doesn’t place much value on depth we don’t have shamans or soothsayers, and depth isn’t encouraged or understood. Surrounded by this shallow, glossy society we develop a shallow side, too, and we become attracted to fluff. That’s reflected in the fact that this culture sets up an addiction to romance based on insecurity the uncertainty of whether or not you’re truly united with the object of your obsession is the rush people get hooked on. I’ve seen this pattern so much in myself and my friends and some people never get off that line. But along with developing my superficial side, I always nurtured a deeper longing, so even when I was falling into the trap of that other kind of love, I was hip to what I was doing. I recently read an article in Esquire magazine called ‘The End of Sex,’ that said something that struck me as very true. It said: If you want endless repetition, see a lot of different people. If you want infinite variety, stay with one. What happens when you date is you run all your best moves and tell all your best stories and in a way, that routine is a method for falling in love with yourself over and over. You can’t do that with a longtime mate because he knows all that old material. With a long relationship, things die then are rekindled, and that shared process of rebirth deepens the love. It’s hard work, though, and a lot of people run at the first sign of trouble. You’re with this person, and suddenly you look like an asshole to them or they look like an asshole to you it’s unpleasant, but if you can get through it you get closer and you learn a way of loving that’s different from the neurotic love enshrined in movies. It’s warmer and has more padding to it. Joni Mitchell See more

I’m afraid I do all 4 of these lame conversation moves! http://sourcesofinsight.com/satir-categories/ #family #dynamics #communication

#marriage #poetry #valentinesday #real #love

From my brother in law: This is how I find out my wife wants to talk; all of the socks in my dresser drawer have been cleaned and are neatly rolled up into pairs, but none of them match. #quality #marriage #communication... #counseling See more